The journey of a workaholic adopting the sweetness of doing nothing
Think about it
When was the last time you enjoyed a state of carefree idleness?
Living and enjoying the present moment with a carefree attitude.
A simple concept?
For me, this is one of the most challenging approaches to life, and yet it’s so essential. Sometimes, we are just too busy doing nothing. The truth is that I have a certain guilt about not being productive and active. Even simple, addictive activities such as checking my email and browsing my news feed calm this urge to do something, but it’s like a forged fulfilment.
The good news is that I’ve started identifying these behaviours and developing an awareness of my choices.
But let’s face it…
I work at least 10h a day, my work is demanding, and I am a curious and hyperactive person by nature. Dolce far niente seemed like a far-away bliss.
So, I decided that the best approach would be to start adopting small changes in my daily life without putting too much pressure on myself to achieve a ‘Dolce Far Niente’ state. I’ve started by introducing small habits to help me to develop an attitude of mindfulness and break this cycle of spending my energy on meaningless activities.
Here are the main new habits I have determined for my daily life:
- Establish a non-planned day every other week, when I allow myself to make my choices in the moment as I feel them.
- Turn off all notifications at home. My husband is a huge supporter of this one.
- Meditate after work, even if just for 5 minutes. I was amazed to see how I changed from fast-paced breathing and a hyper-active mind to a state of relaxation. I searched online for free guided meditations to help me and I love this one The Mindfulness App.
- Start paying attention to the things around me and turn off ‘autopilot’ mode. I am easily immersed in my own thoughts and many times I forget about the present. So, if you see a woman staring at you in the street, it might be me, don’t be scared.
Last but not least, I allow myself to fail while adopting these new habits. Let’s just say that some old habits die hard and the last thing I want is to have a tyranny of mindfulness obligations over my shoulders when adopting a journey of ‘sweetness’ like this.
Are you on a similar journey? Share your story in the comments 🙂